Welcome to Thursday Chronicles, where we sip truth tea and spill it too. Today, we’re talking about something we all secretly want, the soft life. You know, that life where the air smells like vanilla candles, bills are magically settled, nails stay fresh, and everything feels like an aesthetically curated Pinterest board.
But listen… before you romanticize it too much, let’s have a little chat:
The soft life is not free. In fact, somebody is paying for it and the real question is: who?
Let’s break it down.
We scroll past soft life aesthetics on Instagram or TikTok, with captions like:
“I just want to rest and be taken care of.”
“I’m not built for suffering, abeg.”
“Catch flights, not feelings.”
Valid. Extremely valid. Life is already hard enough, who wants to add extra stress to the menu? But here’s where it gets spicy: Soft life is a luxury lifestyle.
And like all luxury lifestyles, someone’s footing the bill.
So if you’re saying, “I want a stress-free life,” also ask yourself:
Am I willing to do what it takes to fund it?
Am I relying on someone else to give it to me?
Or am I just dreaming without direction?
Because truthfully, no shade — you either work for it, marry into it, or manipulate your way through it (and let’s not lie, some people really be doing all three).
Soft life isn’t laziness. It’s strategy.
Some people confuse “soft life” with doing absolutely nothing. But no sis, no bro — real soft life comes from structure, intentionality, and financial independence. You see those women chilling in Dubai, or guys on yachts in Lekki sipping something sweet — you think they just blinked and got there?
Let’s talk facts:
Some are influencers working overtime to sell that dream.
Some married rich, and that’s their hustle — no judgment.
Others are running 3 businesses behind the scenes while you’re busy reposting their morning latte.
Bottom line: Nothing is truly soft if your mind is constantly worrying about where the next credit alert will come from.
What does soft life really cost?
Discipline.
You want to live well? Better start learning how to budget, save, invest, and say no to broke besties and useless hookups.
Self-awareness.
You can’t chase another person’s version of soft life and expect happiness. Your version might be peace, silence, and jollof in your fridge. Know what you want.
Work (yes, work).
Whether it’s a remote job, a tech skill, content creation, business or freelancing — the soft life is built, not begged for.
Boundaries.
You can’t be living soft and still allowing nonsense energy, toxic relationships, or stress that you chose to walk into.
So, what’s the real tea?
Soft life is beautiful. We all deserve ease, luxury, and peace.
But let’s stop fantasizing about it like it’s a lifestyle you just stumble into. Behind every soft aesthetic is a bank alert, a business plan, a sugar zaddy, or blood, sweat, and midnight prayers. Pick your route but be honest with yourself about what it’ll cost.
Don’t just chase vibes, chase value. Your soft life is waiting, but don’t sit around hoping it knocks. Work smart, love wisely, and spend intentionally. That’s the softest life of all.
And that’s today’s edition of Thursday Chronicles!
Soft life is not a crime, but na who get money dey shout “I no fit suffer.” So, whether you’re manifesting it, building it, or marrying it — just know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Life’s too short to flex fake peace or settle for aesthetic stress.
See you next Thursday! Till then, stay soft… but stay smart.
